[sniprpenguin]

So yeah, I've been feeling really down recently, and I think that it's due to my wanting a relationship. But the catch is is that I've never really dated: the furthest I've ever gotten was that we were going to go on a date, but scheduling problems prevented that. And even then, asking her out I was a nervous piece of shit waiting for it to be over.

I guess my problem is mainly just approaching girls whom I don't know, aka I can't do the pick-up lines. Believe me, after that I can do fine.

Any advice?




*Yes, I know that this is similar to Frugal's old thread in the old forums about being a normal 20-year-old.*

[GaryColeman]

Try following women to their cars - they love that.

[Ace]

Confidence is a bitch to find but when you manage to have it, dont over do it.

[Witoolman]

The best advice I can give you, be real. Dont use all the old pickup lines or try to over impress the girl. Just be yourself, you will be surprised.

[SilverSoul]

Dates don't necessarily have to be big deals, depending on where you are in a relationship. Suggest something fun and light as a date - don't set up high expectations only to fail and disappoint yourself and her. By keeping it light, if you two feel like things aren't clicking, you can still stay friends without the awkwardness.

[Ace]

I gets all the bitches < i have a fan club, pity half the members are 13 year old girls who have an IQ under 70...>


but the thing is, you need to know her before you love her. < adding that to my patent thread..>


Be her friend actually talk to her. Dont do stupid shit and dont try to catch her attention

Edit:

Really the best advice i can give you, is ignore stupid peoples advice. anything you've seen in a youtube video. bad ideas.

[Smeagol]

Today is your lucky day, cause Cracked.com has got your plays!

http://www.cracked.c...attract-ladies/

[SilverSoul]

Ace, on 23 November 2009 - 02:16 PM, said:

I gets all the bitches < i have a fan club, pity half the members are 13 year old girls who have an IQ under 70...>

This would sound awkward and shady if you weren't in high school.

[TriggerHappy]

try asking klanana, i heard shes available.

[oopswrongbutton]

TriggerHappy, on 23 November 2009 - 02:38 PM, said:

try asking klanana, i heard shes available.

Not emotionally. *sniff*

[Medical Miracle]

You said you wanted a relationship, so why not try being a bisexual? You'll effectively double your potential relationship possibilities.

[THE HYPNOTOAD]

Might I suggest:

http://www.amazon.co...s/dp/0060554738

It's a book about an awkward writer becoming a legendary pickup artist, and apparently it really happened. It's also pretty funny.

On a side note, based on the name I thought this thread was an appreciation of the 1986 Beastie Boys song, "Girls". Color me disapointed.

[Nitrous]

Witoolman, on 23 November 2009 - 02:08 PM, said:

The best advice I can give you, be real. Dont use all the old pickup lines or try to over impress the girl. Just be yourself, you will be surprised.

Me knowing what you're going through Snipe, since I'm a shy guy and tend to aim for relationships for the long haul, I agree with Wit. Sometimes a simple, "Hey maybe we can get together sometime for a cup of coffee or something." can go a long way. Of course I aim for women I see a lot and/or know some what as opposed to a complete stranger that I may never see again.

Bars are ok but honestly, that's a crap shoot.

TriggerHappy, on 23 November 2009 - 02:38 PM, said:

try asking klanana, i heard shes available.

Also, she has a boyfriend doesn't she? I don't condone to trying to get with another woman if she's taken. Flirt is one thing but to actually go through with it.... yeah I wouldn't advise it.

[Pylat]

Pylat got his current girlfriend by using the following line the day after a 21st party when he graciously offered to drive her home.

"I think we got along really well last night, would you like to take this friendship somewhere further and see how it goes?". True story.

The movie Coming to America has a good point, if you want to pick up a nice girl you have to go to a nice place, so bars and clubs generally fail cause people there are generally going for a one night stand. Your first date shouldn't be a huge affair, don't go for a candlelit dinner and all that shit, keep it simple like coffee and conversation. Or even taking her down to a nice looking area of the city like a park. Unless you have known her a reasonable long time beforehand you should spend a lot of time talking and discussing your general views with each other to see if you are compatible. The relationship is doomed from the start if you're a bleeding heart liberal and she believes in lethal injection for drug possession, so you should clear it all up at the start. Try not to make too many jokes to impress her, 1 small joke is good, if it fails don't try another, you'll just sound desperate. Flowers are good, but don't got for red roses on the first date, then you look like a stalker, this may backfire if you're young cause she'll assume your mother bought them. And above all, just be your god damn self, you can't build a long term relationship on being someone you're not cause she'll learn who you really are sooner or later.

[Grunge]

Well Snipr, there's something made for guys like us who have trouble with women. It's called Alcohol. I suggest you lots.

[ggggg]

Wave around a few 100 dollar bills and some magnum condoms

[SilverSoul]

...spammy comedic responses are fine and dandy if they're followed up with actual helpful/interesting comments or advice. Otherwise it just sounds like plain ol' spam. Yes, I'm picking on a few posts in this thread.

Snipr, maybe tell us, in brief, what kinda things you're into and what she's into?

[Oi(GN)]

Go lift weights and eat healthy.. the better you look, the better your confidence is. Get ripped get laid..watch out for STDS..

[ggggg]

Okay Silver, I'll give some serious advice. Don't show chicks your dancing if you have no clue what you're doing ;), unless you're both drunk and/or just having a laugh.

Agreed with Oi, get jacked. Hit the gym, you'll feel more confident if you're looking good, and you'll most likely be more attractive to the ladies (unless girls all of a sudden don't like healthy guys anymore).